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Put the therapy, podcasts, and techniques aside
and re-ignite the erotic spark...
How do you create deep and sustain deep intimacy,
sexual heat, and
fulfilling love while living a full, demanding life?
If you’re longing for deeper intimacy—
whether you’re calling in a partner,
re-igniting a relationship that feels distant or duty-bound,
or simply tired of feeling stressed, shut down,
or disconnected from your own desire—
this work gives you the tools to change the way you love for the rest of your life!
You’ll learn how to dissolve the patterns that keep you guarded or in your head,
rekindle the erotic spark that has faded under stress or routine,
and create the kind of connection that feels alive,
magnetic, and grounding for both partners.
Sacred intimacy teaches you how to turn tension into closeness,
and polarity gives you the skill to generate attraction
and aliveness in any moment—
so love becomes a place where you both feel met,
desired,
and deeply awake again.
WOMEN WHO:
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Feel a quiet ache for more closeness, tenderness, and passion with their partner — and long to feel chosen, seen, and met beyond the roles of mother, organizer, or do-er.
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Notice the relationship has slipped into logistics, co-parenting, and task management, and desire to bring back the warmth, play, and erotic spark that once felt natural.
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Spend so much time in go-mode — managing, planning, holding everything together — that their body feels tight, tired, or far from desire.
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Long to soften the heart armor, to feel held instead of holding everything, to breathe again in their own skin.
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Miss the version of themselves who feels radiant, sensual, expressive — and want to reconnect with her without having to force anything or “perform” femininity.
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Want simple, grounded practices that help them feel open, receptive, connected, and able to surrender into love rather than staying in control out of habit or survival.
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Are calling in love and desire to feel magnetic, open-hearted, and deeply rooted in themselves so they stop attracting partners who cannot meet them.
MEN WHO:
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Feel like no matter how hard you try, it’s never enough — wanting to make your partner happy or bring back closeness, but feeling confused, discouraged, or shut down when nothing seems to land.
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Crave sexual and emotional intimacy but feeling rejected, unseen, or unsure how to reignite desire without pressure, conflict, or withdrawal.
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Carry stress and responsibility alone, without a place to express your inner world, leading to numbness, exhaustion, or a sense of losing yourself.
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Not knowing how to navigate her emotions — feeling overwhelmed, criticized, or defensive when intensity arises, even though you want to show up with strength and care.
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Lose confidence in yourself as a partner or lover, unsure how to rebuild connection, leadership, or the spark that once felt effortless.
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Feel disconnected from your own vitality and purpose, stuck in duty or autopilot mode, longing to feel more alive, grounded, and present.
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Want to lead and love more powerfully — to be the man she can trust, relax into, and open with — but lacking the tools or direction to embody that consistently.
This Program is for...
Program Details
CO-ED THURSDAY WORKSHOPS:
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Held by Alexandra and Eli twice monthly on Thursdays. Dive into exercises and practices, some solo, some with a partner, focused on embodiment, creating sexual polarity, and much more.
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Live. 2 hours. Recordings available.
Call Times:
10 AM PST / 1 PM EST / 7 PM CET
MONTHLY MEN'S &
WOMEN'S WORKSHOPS:
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Held during the second and fourth week of each month, 90 minute sessions.
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Separate sessions for men and women
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Women: 2nd Thursday of the month, with Alexandra.
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Men: 4th Thursday of the month, with Eli.
Call Times:
10 AM PST / 1 PM EST / 7 PM CET
PLUS:
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Access to recorded practices and teachings.
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17 hours of interactive teaching LIVE plus Q & A with Alexandra and Eli plus recordings you can return to and practice with on your own.
“Alchemy of Love has been the most beautiful and transformative container for both me and my partner. I feel that we now know ourselves and each other on a much deeper level —showing up with greater awareness, understanding each other's patterns and edges with newfound compassion. Above all, these three months have awakened a profound devotion to love, both within myself and our relationship. Eli and Alexandra hold an exquisite container and balance of energies, embodying a deep, playful, and fully alive partnership that continues to inspire.”
— STIJN HOSMAN, past AOL Participant
Join teachers, devoted partners,
and parents,
ELI and ALEXANDRA
in a rich and dynamic training to
call in love from your deepest being ,
deepen your relationship,
and learn to cultivate erotic polarity.
Come solo or with a partner.
All are welcome.
IN ALCHEMY OF LOVE YOU WILL PRACTICE...
CREATING +
SUSTAINING SEXUAL POLARITY
EMBODIED INTIMACY PRACTICE
TURNING CONFLICT INTO EROTIC SPARK
"My heart wants to express how wonderful these sessions have been for it, for me, for us. I feel held in skillful facilitation in ways I haven't for many years...at least not in work that is embodied. The program and the two of you as space holders and magic crafters, have far exceeded my expectations. I wasn't even aware of how parched I've been, thirsting for guidance into these areas of my soul and body again. And....there's what's being invited in our relationship. Ahhhh so juicy! Brent and I met 31 years ago. Now, here we are with grown children, a grandbaby, years of life between us...AND this program is unlocking newness, depth, and love we had not yet opened. What a divine gift to keep unwrapping! Thank you. The gratitude I feel is bone deep."
— BRITTA BUSHNELL, Author / Mentor / Speaker
Monthly
BREAKDOWN
January
- Co-Ed Thursdays:
Jan 8, Jan 22
- Women’s Session:
Jan 15
- Men’s Session:
Jan 29
February
- Co-Ed Thursdays:
Feb 5, Feb 19
- Women’s Session:
Feb 10 (Tuesday)
- Men’s Session:
Feb 26
March + April
- Co-Ed Thursdays:
March 5, March 19
- Women’s Session:
March 12
- Men’s Session:
March 26
Discover your deepest offering in intimacy - and give it fully.
Whether you are single, or in relationship, come onto a journey to deepen: to meet your edges in loving and relationship, transform shadows into art, and allow your desire for deeper, wilder, truer sex and intimacy to come to fruition.
“The AOL program was an incredibly special experience that my husband and I will always cherish. Investing in our relationship felt like a luxury at first, like something fun to do. And while, yes, the program was loads of fun — we were both blown away by just how powerful the tools, practices and teachings that Alexandra and Eli offered are. The insights, experiences and openings in our relationship that this course sparked for us bring me to tears to think about. It was everything we didn’t know we needed — and our relationship feels buoyed in a beautiful new way. From the bottom of my heart, thank you both for sharing your wisdom with us.”
— ALCHEMY OF LOVE COUPLE
In a sea of people offering teachings around relationship at this time we want to be clear with you as to who we are and what perspective we offer...
We are parents, longtime spiritual and embodiment practitioners, artists, and commited partners on the path of sacred intimacy.
We are fiercely committed to loving in a way we didn't see modeled, and we are choosing to love and do relationship as our deepest most fierce spiritual practice and life's work.
We have a practice of living into our soul work together: transforming our patterns, and enjoying deep heart liberation through practice.
Our relationship is a sacred dojo, a cauldron, a place for accepting what is, as much as courageously transforming what is ready to shift. We are inviting you to create this space in your own life, turning up your own heat, and watching things transform.
In the same way that you would practice to become exceptional in any art, relationship is a place where we study, train, and become masterful at the art of intimacy. This starts with your own personal practice, self realization, and the sensitivity of how you impact another.
In the practice of sacred relationship, some days it is epic erotic fails and some days blissful highs- we practice showing up and opening to it all.
This practice is the opposite of what society, history, and Hollywood have guided culture into. Or what social media perpetuates with flattened, glossy images of what "polarity" and "sacred intimacy" look like...
This path is where you know yourself at depth, in the sacred mirror of another.
As the world feels more distracted and uncertain and pulling you in 100 directions, now is the time to cultivate relationship as a sanctuary and temple that deeply nourishes you and the wider community.
Alexandra and Eli
"I've never experienced anything like this. I still feel so tender and raw and open and so filled up with love after working with Alexandra."
"I feel exhausted and awake. I feel more myself than I ever have. And I feel fucking unstoppable. Thank you Eli."
JOIN US ON A 3 MONTH ADVENTURE IN BOLD LOVING, EMBODIED TRANSFORMATION, AND DIVING INTO SACRED INTIMACY IN WILD TIMES.
Alexandra is a bestselling author of two books with Sounds True who has worked with thousands of women to heal, transform, and open emotionally and sensually. Her work has been featured in Vogue, NY Times, and many other publications.
Alexandra brings practices of emotional expression, erotic embodiment and a dynamic background of study and practice in psychodrama, depth psychology, and sacred intimacy, and is IFS-informed and trauma-informed.
“I've been describing Eli and Alexandra as the 'embodiment of sexy wisdom' and I think this container was just that. I left each session feeling like my heart was wide open and on fire. For me, it was a deep exploration of all the love centers in the body and a compassionate wrestling with the masculine-feminine polarity. Finding myself at various points there left me in awe. And it helped me to locate where I want and prefer to be met by another on that polarity. It was also such a gift to witness other couples operating in sacred relationship - supporting my belief that the kind of love I long for does exist. Deepest gratitude to Alexandra and Eli for living that and letting us see into their way with it.”
— JANAE ESWALD, past AOL Participant
“Alexandra, the fiery woman who’s dousing gasoline on my own flames, the heart who has been tender and gentle with my own, the wise stoic teacher who calls out my bullshit, the powerful voice who has lead me in a journey to myself, the silly and funny woman who has made me laugh through tears. My soul has appreciated every ounce of medicine our time together has offered.”
Eli brings a rich practice of 20 years of experience teaching in the space of sacred intimacy, men's work, and spirituality. He brings awareness practices, qi gong, meditation, and the cultivation of presence to the container.
Eli has a long-standing mentorship with David Deida as teacher and collaborator beginning in 2004 until present, coupled with decades of practice of meditation, yoga, qigong, 6 years of mentorship and study in trauma healing and attachment.
"Working with Eli is like grasping onto a zipline into depth, an exploration of my inner nature as the hair on my head is blown about by the speed at which I move through my inner experience while the thrill of self-discovery ensues. "
“My heart burst open with profound revelation—again and again. Witnessing Alexandra and Eli lead us with their rich, conscious love was a truly transformative experience. Their expression wove a sacred container—one that nurtured the soul, invited deep healing, and radiated pure devotion. Within Alchemy of Love, I unearthed a newfound trust in myself, surrendering to raw vulnerability and alchemizing it into joyful, playful expansion. I discovered the profound power of being witnessed by men, dissolving old barriers, and awakening a deep longing for the intimacy my soul craves. This journey was not just moving—it was a radiant, life-affirming awakening, and for that, my cracked open heart overflows with gratitude.”
— LAURA MILLER, past AOL Participant